When I had both of my kids, we were still a long ways out from the holidays, nonetheless I remember those nerve wrecking moments of going around tons of friends and family for the first time with my newborn. At the time (especially with my first) I wasn't sure exactly how to set boundaries and make my needs known to family. I was very protective and territorial instinctively with my baby but I didn't want to seem "mean" by projecting my do's and dont's to every person I came in contact with. It took me a quick second with a few encounters when I knew i had to speak up and say something!